Warning Sign

Guy/Girl relationships are fascinating to me; and what I find even more interesting is the relationship that never ends. A guy and girl date, it inevitably doesn't work out for various reasons, and they break up. Only the relationship doesn't end with the break up. Either one or both have some vested interest in what the other person knows, what they think or how they feel... even though it's over. Why is that? Better still is when one person tries to revisit a relationship and explain "why this happened" or "what was really going on" or "how I was really feeling." Here's my question: why is it we can't tell the gosh darn truth while we're still IN the relationship? Does it have to wait until we've already broken someone's heart or had our heart broken? Why are so we afraid to be human and vulnerable? I don't know what the most important element to a relationship is (or if there is one) but I do know that communication almost to the point of over communicating is way up there. Allowing the other person in the relationship to know exactly how you feel is so so important, but it should end when the relationship is over. But is it ever really over? I don't know.